Is It Okay to Ignore a Child in ABA?

One of the most common—and at the same time most misunderstood—questions in ABA practice is whether ignoring a child is a valid strategy. The confusion often arises because the term “ignoring” is associated with abandonment, coldness, or lack of empathy. However, in ethical, science-based ABA, the meaning is very different.

From a professional approach, such as the one promoted by Gretel Debasa, ignoring does not mean leaving a child alone or neglecting their emotions. It is a specific clinical strategy that must be applied with clear criteria, defined limits, and always within an individualized plan.

What does “ignoring” really mean in ABA?

In ABA, ignoring usually refers to an extinction procedure, used only when an inappropriate behavior is maintained by attention. This means not reinforcing that behavior with attention, while still maintaining presence, safety, and support for the child.

It is important to highlight that this strategy:

• Is used only when there is a clear functional assessment

• Is always accompanied by teaching alternative skills

• Must be supervised by a certified professional

What is not ignored in ABA

An ethical intervention never involves neglecting essential aspects of a child’s well-being. In ABA:

• ❌ Emotions are not ignored

• ❌ Physical or emotional needs are not ignored

• ❌ Dangerous or high-risk behaviors are not ignored

Safety, emotional regulation, and the child’s dignity are always a priority.

Redirecting attention: the real goal

In respectful ABA practice, attention is not taken away from the child; instead, it is redirected toward the behavior we want to strengthen. This allows the child to learn more functional and effective ways to communicate, such as asking for help, requesting attention, or expressing discomfort appropriately.

This approach protects the adult–child relationship and promotes key skills such as:

• Functional communication

• Self-regulation

• Autonomy

• Progressive independence

Ethical ABA: beyond obedience

A well-applied ABA intervention does not seek blind obedience. Its goal is to develop understanding, functional skills, and well-being for both the child and their family. Every strategy should be guided by science, but also by respect, empathy, and the individuality of each child.

📌 This content is for educational purposes only and does not replace an individual professional evaluation.